Charlotte’s mum, Jaime, was diagnosed with a brain tumour two years ago. She’s written about her experiences, and her advice for others living with a brain tumour. Her 12 year old daughter Charlotte also wanted to share her story, which she has written below.
Fighting from the side lines
When I was ten years old, I learnt that life can change in an instant and it showed me that we have to value our lives because we just don’t know what could happen. When I was just ten years old, my mum was diagnosed with a brain tumor and that suddenly changed everything. This is my story about fighting from the side lines.
I woke up on Friday 5th May like normal; my parents woke up on Friday 5th May like normal. I went to school that day so excited because my mum was going to be taking me to McDonald’s for a treat for doing so well at school. When I finished school, I was super pumped because of my treat, but it turned out that my aunt had come to get me from school and not my mum so I was very confused (and of course a bit disappointed). I went back over to her house when she told me that my mum was in hospital because her MRI scan came back with something on her brain a little abnormal.
A few days had passed and I was beginning to become very worried about my mum because I thought she would have been home like normal by now, but it turned out that she was going to need surgery on her brain. I went to visit her in MK hospital once, before she was transferred to a hospital all the way in Oxford.
I was a ten year old living at home with my baby sister, my dad and my Grandma but no mum. I just didn’t feel right.
When my mum finally went for her brain surgery, I kept on telling myself get through the next 5 minutes. You can make it through the next 5 minutes. And I did. I made it through months of my mum’s cancer treatment. After my mum had her surgery, she was still in hospital and I was starting to get very annoyed at the people at home. Some days, I just wanted to run all the way to Oxford and just curl up on my mum’s hospital bed and just give her a massive hug and tell her that there is a CAN in CANcer because we CAN beat it! When my mum finally came home, it was the best time of my life.
Now that my mum has gone through cancer, I am a different person. I am more aware of life and I am living my life to the very fullest because I know that it could be me next.
Fighting from the side lines was and still is hard and there were loads of different emotions going on through my head and I want to share them with you.
I am glad that I was told about my mum’s tumour because I think that because I knew, I was able to be a stronger person. I am so grateful because I had so many people I could talk to, even though I was worried to speak to my family about it.
It is okay to not want to talk to family about it because there are so many other people you can talk to. Life is supposed to be hard; if it was easy, everyone would do it. You have to believe that things seem impossible until it is done.
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