Putting your day to bed.

There is a transition point in every day when the day’s activities end and the evening begins. Use this time to think about the day that has just past. Find a quiet space to reflect. Take fifteen minutes, and in a beautiful notebook capture the following:

  • What have you achieved today? It doesn’t matter how small, note this down. Be kind to yourself and champion yourself. Who else deserves to be championed? Make sure you let them know.
  • What loose ends are there? You might not be able to tie them all up here and now; just acknowledge that they are there. When might you deal with them? Who can help you? Once you have done this, put them to bed until you are ready to deal with them.
  • What might stop you sleeping well tonight? What positive actions might you take to deal with this? One of the things you can do with negative thoughts is to accept them, acknowledge that they are there, and then let them go. This is the brain processing. Just let them go, and bring your mind back to the task in mind.

After fifteen minutes, put your notes to one side and enjoy your evening.

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Creating a sanctuary

Think about creating a space that truly is a sanctuary for you. What does this look like? It doesn’t have to be exotic, expensive or a room on its own. It could be as simple as designating a space in the kitchen where electronic devices are plugged in when you come into the house in the evening. It could be turning off the TV and turning on some relaxing music instead. It could mean stopping what you are doing to make eye contact with your children while they talk to you. It could be saying no to some plans so that you can spend time together as a family, or time on your own. A sanctuary is a space where you can breathe, take a break from performing, and where you can be who you are in a safe place.

Pleasurable activities

In the busyness of our lives, sometimes we lose sight of pleasure. We are so busy trying to sort, manage, orchestrate, drive that we forget that we need a balance. Make a list of things you like to do that make your heart sing. These will give you energy. Many do not use much energy; many are actually quite small things, like sitting with a favourite piece of music or feeling the sun on your face, listening to birdsong or having a cuddle. Write yours in your beautiful notebook. Look at them often to remind yourself. And promise to do one every day.

Here are some examples. Highlight key ones and build them into your day. Promise yourself to do one a day, as a minimum. Add your own.

  • Phone a friend
  • Paint your nails
  • Watch a favourite film
  • Treat yourself to something new
  • Have a massage
  • Light a candle
  • Curl up with a good book
  • Have clean sheets on the bed
  • Play word games
  • Thump a cushion
  • Enjoy a walk in the sun
  • Declutter a cupboard
  • Sit by the sea
  • Stretch
  • Watch people from a café
  • Make a list
  • Go out for dinner or have a takeaway
  • Promise yourself to do something new this week
  • Walk a dog
  • Have a bath
  • Watch a comedy
  • Look at photographs
  • Cuddle someone, be cuddled
  • Share a smile
  • Surf the internet
  • Meet a friend for coffee and cake
  • Wear something cosy
  • Dance
  • Have someone wash your hair
  • Clear out an in-tray
  • Tell someone what is special about them
  • Plan a weekend away
  • Bake a cake
  • Plan a get together with friends

Did this information make you feel more resourced, more confident or more in control?